AUTHOR: Barbara

One of the most satisfying elements of my role as a training consultant and coach is seeing people grasp a concept, the ‘a-ha moment’ when they ‘get it’ and they leave the session stretched yet smiling, focused and motivated. The most challenging is when people are simply not teachable. Being unteachable can happen for a number of reasons. For some, it is because they are full of bravado and fearful of being vulnerable. After all, acknowledging that you don’t have it ‘all going on’ is hard. Another reason could be that they are simply unprepared to put themselves under the spotlight and ask themselves the difficult questions. Even though the questions they need to ask could free them from being stuck in their own pattern of thinking and behaving.

We all have unbounded potential, yet sadly, those who are ‘stuck’ are often unaware that this is down to their own inner dialogue. Simply put, their attitude. This is what ‘stinking thinking’ is to me. The loudest and most influential voice you hear is your own. This critic is the emotional driver of our inner voice. You may know this voice, it only has negative things to say. It is the voice of comparisons, condemnation, criticism and conceit – and on occasions, it can spill out to our lips. Take a close look at what yours has said today.

And yet, praise Jesus! We have another voice. The voice of truth. The voice that says: ‘Believers, [that’s you] whatever is true, whatever is honourable and worthy of respect, whatever is right and confirmed by God’s word, whatever is pure and wholesome, whatever is lovely and brings peace, whatever is admirable and of good repute; if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think continually on these things [centre your mind on them and implant them in your heart].The things which you have learned and received and heard and seen in me, practise these things [in daily life, at work, rest and at play], and the God [who is the source of ALL things] of peace and well-being will be with you! Philippians 4:8-9 (AMP)

You have a choice as to how you behave, but only if you consciously take responsibility for – and control over – your inner conversation. Henry Ford said, ‘Whether you think you can, or think you can’t, you are right!’ The ultimate ‘a-ha moment’ we should be aiming for is, of course, a spiritual one. Just as we feed our minds in the pursuit of knowledge, wisdom and understanding, most importantly, we must feed our soul.

Amazing things can happen when we choose to adopt HIS attitude. Choose to live by the choices you make and not by chance, make changes not excuses. Choose your attitude.